Are you a father? Are you a daddy? Is there a difference? Or are you neither? Or are you both? Ever think about that? I never did till recently.
Guardians of The Galaxy II. Yes, I’ll admit it, I totally geeked out. I loved the movies, Guardians of The Galaxy I & II. If you haven’t seen them, I highly recommend you do so. They are funny, charming, witty, and the 80’s music is fabulous. The cinematography is also darn good. All of the characters are great but if the cute as can be character name Groot doesn’t make you fall in love, I don’t know what will.
It wasn’t until the very end of the sequel that I found the true meaning. Sure, both movies are very entertaining, but a very powerful message was delivered – if you are willing to hear it. I won’t ruin the viewing for you if you haven’t seen the movies, but a tragedy, life – saving event happens. A character named Yondu says, “He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn’t your daddy.” Geekness aside – this was a powerful message. It wasn’t lost on me.
I took the photo above this weekend. As I watched a father and son share a fishing expedition, it hit me. Most men who have children really are a father and a daddy – all at the same time. Definitely both. A boy needs his daddy. Anyone can be a father, but it takes time, energy (a lot of it), patience, sacrifice, love, and sometimes a little harshness to be a daddy. I may not be telling you anything new. You already know this if you’re a daddy.
Even if you’re not a father you can still be a daddy. Yondu did. Whether you marry into a family or just want to be a mentor – anyone can be a daddy. And little boys crave being with daddy. This is how they learn to be good men. Strong men. Men of character. There are plenty of examples of men in our society that would have benefited from having a daddy. I see it every day. How sad that if only they had a daddy instead of just a father, their lives would have been totally different. Not mentioning any ages, but my son once told me when he was older (God forbid he should say it when he was a youngster – but that’s the Jewish in me thinking out loud. It’s what my people do): “Dad, you’re always right. How is it that you always seem to be right when you tell me something?” My answer, “Because I’m a daddy – not just a father.” Plus, I’m older and have been around the block a few times, but he didn’t need to know that. It will be our little secret.
So, are you a father or a daddy? One is easy, and one is totally worth it – for you and your son. The recipe to being a daddy is above. You know you want to. It will fill your heart. Be a father and a daddy. And the picture above – if you think it’s just fishing, you’d be wrong. A daddy knows this.